How Boundaries Effectively Safeguard Your Energy
EP. 23
Discover how setting boundaries can transform your life and protect your energy. In this empowering episode of the Mae B Mindful podcast, Hannah explores practical tips for identifying your limits, saying no with confidence, and maintaining balance. Learn how to reclaim your time, honor your needs, and show up fully for what truly matters. Perfect for anyone ready to prioritize their well-being and embrace self-respect.
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Okay, I want to talk about boundaries, kids. Ladies and gentlemen, I want to talk about boundaries. This is the Mae B Mindful podcast, and I am your host, Hannah Mae. I'm a mother of six, conscious birth instructor and educator, spiritual growth facilitator, and certified hypnotist. This podcast is about inspiring hope, expanding awareness and consciousness, in order to revolutionize the way we live and experience our lives. You can expect thought-provoking episodes each week, spanning a range of topics. Drawing from both my own journey of transformation and healing and working with others, I hope you find this podcast to be informative, refreshing, illuminating, and instrumental in your own soul's evolution and growth. Let's jump right in.
Boundaries are really important. You can be a boundary, but if you want to be a boundary, you can be a boundary boss. It doesn’t mean you have to act like a boss. Often, there’s this idea that having a boundary is some sort of loud declaration of something, but it’s not. Oftentimes, a boundary is a quiet, silent, energetic shift within yourself, something you do for you in order to honor your energy, safeguard your energy, and do the most loving, nurturing, and kind thing for yourself.
Boundaries are the actions required to come out of codependency, release yourself from toxic relationships, and dynamics. The only thing that stops us is ourselves. Nobody’s saying you’re not allowed to do that, and if they are, who are they to say that? Even if someone is saying that or threatening something, we’re just being dominated by a fear or agreeing with a straight-up lie because it’s not true. Nobody’s the boss of you—they’re just not.
Sometimes we tolerate things way past their expiration date. Logically, if you like cereal, would you pour disgusting, clumpy, expired milk into it and ruin your breakfast every morning? You’d toss that milk the moment you got a whiff of how expired it was. Same thing with your phone—if it breaks, you’re not going to try to fix it year after year. You’d take it to the store and get it fixed ASAP. First, take an honest look at who or what has expired in your life. If there’s a relationship well past its expiration date that you’re holding out on, waiting for change, or maybe someone keeps dangling a carrot, you’ve got to ask yourself why.
There’s always a gain in it. It might be as simple as not having to face your feelings or fears. I had a conversation with a teenager whose teacher pointed out how she says yes to everything. When asked why she wouldn’t want to change, she said she could sustain it for now. This young person stretched herself to the limit but didn’t want downtime because it brought boredom, discomfort, and feelings she didn’t want to face.
We can tolerate unhealthy things when there’s a perceived gain. But what is it costing you? What’s the toll on your peace of mind, creative energy, or joy? If something’s costing you joy, it’s non-negotiable—it’s got to go. Learning to self-advocate and give yourself permission is key. Especially if you’re healing from codependency, it’s about stepping into the belief that you do have the right to take care of yourself. Nobody else will do it for you.
Nobody else is responsible for protecting your energy. And here’s the thing: your energy is finite. Imagine your phone battery is at 10%. Are you going to let someone scroll through TikTok on your phone for hours, knowing you need that charge to navigate your day? Of course not. You’d plug it in, save it for emergencies, or use it intentionally. Your energy is the same way. You can’t let people, situations, or habits drain you and still expect to show up for the things that truly matter.
Setting boundaries is about honoring that energy and making choices that support your well-being. It doesn’t mean you’re mean or unkind; it means you’re responsible for your own happiness. You can be kind and still say no. You can love someone and still protect your peace.
A boundary is for you, not to control others. It’s not about changing someone else’s behavior; it’s about deciding what you will and won’t allow into your space. It’s an act of self-love and self-respect. When you set boundaries, you’re teaching people how to treat you. You’re showing them what’s acceptable in your life and what isn’t.
Here’s the truth: boundaries can be uncomfortable at first, especially if you’re not used to setting them. People might resist or push back. They might not like the new dynamic because it means they can no longer take advantage of you or your time. But over time, the discomfort fades, and you start to feel empowered, free, and aligned with your values.
So, what’s one boundary you can set today to honor your energy and protect your peace? Take some time to reflect, and remember: you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect—starting with how you treat yourself.
Thank you for joining me today on the Mae B Mindful podcast. I hope this episode has sparked some insights or inspiration for you. Remember to follow and subscribe on your favorite platforms by clicking the icons below. Until next time, take care of yourself and set those boundaries. You’ve got this.