The Paradox of Perfectionism – Presence Over Performance | The Attachment & Identity Series
Ep. 37
Perfectionism often wears a mask of ambition, discipline, or “doing your best.” But beneath it? Fear. Survival. Self-abandonment.
In this episode, Hannah unpacks the paradox of perfectionism — how it disconnects us from our authenticity, fractures identity, and keeps us in a cycle of never enough.
She explores the trauma roots of people-pleasing, Carl Jung’s wisdom on the persona and individuation, and how both Scripture and a psycho-spiritual lens offer pathways back to wholeness.
Through this soul-centered perspective, Hannah reflects on the deeper longing beneath perfectionism — not to perform, but to reunite with presence, God, and the truth of who we really are.
✨ Topics covered:
• Perfectionism as a protective pattern
• The trauma link: conditional love, nervous system survival, generational cycles
• Jung’s teachings on shadow, self, and individuation
• A biblical and spiritual lens on identity, perfection, and worth
• Hypnosis as a tool to unlearn false programming
• A moving reflection on reparenting, safety, and soul return
You haven’t failed. You’ve just been surviving.
Now it’s time to return — and remember who you are.
📌 Timestamps
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03:30 – Personality vs. Trauma: The Type A Paradox
Personal stories, nuance around drive vs. depletion
06:55 – Perfectionism as a Survival Strategy
Conditional love, people-pleasing, and the roots of self-abandonment
08:41 – The origin of Perfectionism & Social Pressures
11:47 - The Great Paradox of Perfectionism/Self abandonment and the need for connection
17:40 – Jung & The Path of Individuation
The persona, shadow work, and the return to wholeness
18:35 – A Spiritual Perspective on Perfectionism
Ego vs. soul perfection, Matthew’s “Be ye perfect,” and Divine identity
20:30 – Hypnosis as Deconditioning
Unlearning early programming and reclaiming self-worth
22:29 – The Antidote: Presence & Self-Acceptance
A reflection on the nervous system, breath, and letting go of the mask
24:13 – Story: Parental Containment & Spiritual Safety
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Ep. 37
Perfectionism often wears a mask of ambition, discipline, or “doing your best.” But beneath it? Fear. Survival. Self-abandonment.
In this episode, Hannah unpacks the paradox of perfectionism — how it disconnects us from our authenticity, fractures identity, and keeps us in a cycle of never enough.
She explores the trauma roots of people-pleasing, Carl Jung’s wisdom on the persona and individuation, and how both Scripture and a psycho-spiritual lens offer pathways back to wholeness.
Through this soul-centered perspective, Hannah reflects on the deeper longing beneath perfectionism — not to perform, but to reunite with presence, God, and the truth of who we really are.
✨ Topics covered:
• Perfectionism as a protective pattern
• The trauma link: conditional love, nervous system survival, generational cycles
• Jung’s teachings on shadow, self, and individuation
• A biblical and spiritual lens on identity, perfection, and worth
• Hypnosis as a tool to unlearn false programming
• A moving reflection on reparenting, safety, and soul return
You haven’t failed. You’ve just been surviving.
Now it’s time to return — and remember who you are.
Ready to reconnect with your true self?
Explore Soul Detox + 7th Path Self-Hypnosis® here: https://maebmindful.com
🕊️ Download your free Peace & Grounding Meditation here:
https://maebmindful.com/newsletter-sign-up
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